Saturday, July 19, 2008

CoDependency: 12 Steps to Freedom

THE TWELVE STEPS OF CO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS

1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become
unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as
we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact
nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends
to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so
would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact
with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us
and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried
to carry this message to other co-dependents, and to practice these
principles in all our affairs.

As politely borrowed from http://www.recovery.org/coda/coda.more.txt .

1 comment:

Cipolo said...

I've recently begun working the 12 steps with my sponsor. I guess we've met prolly four times now with a long vacation for him stuck in there too.

I'm slightly skeptical about my ability to actually do this for me. This may be the first thing I actually do for me -- no one else -- in a long time (if ever). The fear comes out in full force because I'm so used to beating myself up for not being able to finish things. I'm kinda even doing it now as I think about it. I've focused on the insecurities in me for so long, I guess it's no wonder why it's hard to believe in myself. So, as I realize that I'm stuck in an unhealthy pattern, I'm laughing because I need to spend some time stepping through to sanity.